Here are a few people you don’t have to invite
Michael and Christine are having a hard time putting together their wedding list. Times are not like they used to be. Things are expensive. They simply cannot afford to invite every person that they know to their wedding. Without proper planning and budgeting you can end up starting your happily ever after buried under a mountain of debt by simply trying, to please everyone. But how do they figure out who makes the cut and who doesn’t?
Long ago when you were getting married in the Caribbean, you were expected to invite all of your distant cousins, family members who you don’t speak to or even like, neighbours, colleagues, former co-workers, former co-workers of your parents, "pumpkin vine" cousins of your grandmother and anybody you interacted with at some point in your life. In modern times this practice is just not possible! Especially if you are trying to cut cost or interested in having a smaller and more intimate gathering. Even if you’re planning a giant affair at a bigger venue or you have a big family, there are some people you just don’t want at your wedding.
Sometimes cutting down your wedding guest list can be tough and even end up being an argumentative process between you and your partner. To make things a little easier on you, here is a list of 8 people that you do not need to invite to your wedding.
Relatives You Never See
You know that distant cousin you met that one time at your great great aunt’s funeral? You both really enjoyed each other’s company but never bothered to stay in touch? When you see them in public it’s almost as if you’re greeting a complete stranger? Cross them off the list! These people don’t know you and because you share the same last name does not mean they earn a spot at your special day.
Embarrassing relations and Badly Behaved Friends
You know that friend who is the life and soul of the party but usually ends up taking it too far? Or that uncle who gets totally drunk at weddings and make inappropriate comments? Leave them at home! You don’t really want somebody to be overly outrageous and cause a major scene at your nuptials.
Long ago neighbours were part of the family and it was obvious that they had to be invited to your wedding. If this is still the case, then go ahead and invite them. However do not feel obligated to put them on your list because they live next door and you share casual conversation while washing the car or watering the plants.
You do not have to invite boyfriends and girlfriends to your big day. There is an invisible rule when inviting plus ones: If somebody isn’t engaged or living with their partner in a committed relationship, then they do not get a plus one. If your budget is tight then don’t feel guilty about not inviting them.
Okay let me break this down for you. Your A list is made up of people you must invite to your wedding -this includes close family members, friends and wedding party members. Everyone else goes on the B list -people who you want to be there but their presence is not absolutely necessary.
So who qualifies for the B list? Somebody you worked with a few years ago or went to school with or any one you have not been in constant contact with. You don’t have to invite them to your big day. Your wedding day isn’t a reunion. It’s about celebrating your union with your significant other.
Good for you if you managed to successfully maintain a friendship with your ex after having an intense relationship. No need to automatically assume that you need to invite them to your wedding. Remember they are part of your past, no need to bring them into your future.
Ask yourself this question, is your boss your friend? Do you feel comfortable around them? If the answer is no, then cross them off your list. Your wedding is an intimate occasion and you should feel free to be relaxed and enjoy it with your guests, not feel as if you’re being watched by attendees.